I mean, the child - they will grow up. And it feels like we only have one chance in parenting - we must do it correctly the first time. Parenting is a serious business; I know that even when I was 17. But the nature of parenting should not be an excuse or worst, the main reason for the absence of love and compassion in the relationship. Parents always mean well; but the dos, don'ts, never, shoulds and shouldn'ts list must not turn parenting into some human training camp. I am talking about the lists because I know that is the method I'd use to raise my children.
But I come to realized that rules and obedience are not the main point in parenting. I can relate this to my relationship with Hakimi. Yes I can make him to obey my rules; I can force him to obey my rules. But if I keep treating him like that, I know I will lose him once he is a teenager. When the time comes, the poem suits me very well. Through time, I learn that good intention must be delivered with good methods. Per Ustaz Hasrizal, our children might fails to follow our teaching (words), but they never fails to copy our acts. If you treat children sternly, you get stern children.
|Hakimi... His presence makes me a better person who wants to be a good parent.|